Pimpin’ Ain’t Easy

Several years ago, I went through a few periods of being single.  In case you are not aware of this, it is really hard to meet good people when you are in your late 30s.  The pool is small and, well…rather picked-over.  I already wrote in this blog about one of my online dating experiences.  I did the eharmony thing for a few months, at my friend’s insistence.  I was not a huge fan, but I will say, it is a great way to get out there and meet some people.  When you’re single, I think the best thing you can do is just get out of your house and go meet people. It served that purpose well, but I felt like eharmony was hard for me because it seemed like it was stacked up with dudes with whom I’d never have anything in common.  So I started to get creative. 

I don’t remember whose idea it was.  I might have mentioned to my pal Lisa (the same one who bought me the eharmony membership) an idea to use facebook to try to meet guys.  I guess the thinking was that it’s not so random—it’d be people my friend knew—at least somewhat.  So Lisa pimped me out on her facebook page.  And it worked.  Sort of.

Two guys responded to her post.  One was an old neighbor from the house she lived in till she was ten.  His name was David.  Lisa hadn’t seen him since she was ten, but assured me that his family was wonderful and that he had been a nice guy—at least back then.  She gave me his phone number and asked me to tell her if his voice still sounded like Kermit.  I was able to let her know later that it did.

I found out that David was recently divorced.  He was employed as a guy who drives around the state to different dentist offices, picking up the precious metals that have come out of people’s teeth.  I’ll bet you didn’t even know that was a thing!  And I guess that right there is why I didn’t completely hate dating.  Because every person you meet is probably going to—at the very least—give you a gem like that. 

After a not-entirely-promising conversation, we decided to meet in person.  We met at a martini bar in Royal Oak at 9pm on a Friday night.  The meeting was a little like an interview—a couple of people firing questions at each other, answering the questions, looking for anything to latch onto to turn into a conversation.  After what seemed like a few grueling hours of this, I went to the ladies room, checked my phone for the time and was devastated to see it wasn’t even 10pm. 

I returned to the table, considered calling it quits, but out of politeness, decided to give it another shot.  Up to this point, he had mentioned his divorce and his ex-wife a handful of times in pretty derogatory terms (that’s always charming on a first date).  So I decided to go ahead and ask about it, “So sounds like your divorce was pretty tough, huh?” 

“Oh, no, we get along ok.  We decided to stay civil because of our son.”   I felt some sympathy for that woman, having to have a tie to this man for the rest of her life.  He went on, summing up their relationship and its demise like this:  “Oh, you know how you ladies are…in the beginning, you’re going to the gym and taking care of things and looking good.  Then you get married, have a kid….by the time we got divorced, my wife could take up two chairs!”  David was no prize.  He looked ok until he smiled—and then his whole face became unattractive somehow.  And turns out he was ugly on the inside too.  Things wrapped up pretty quickly after that.    

The other guy was a friend of Lisa’s from way back. I’d heard of him, but we’d (I thought) never met.  Turns out, not only had we met before, but he had actually been to my house once, years ago.  He’d come over with a couple other people I’m friends with—people who don’t even know Lisa.  So that was a fun way to start things off.  That first phone call lasted a really long time.  He was interesting and intelligent—a far cry from David—things were looking up. 

In that first conversation, he mentioned something about being a squatter in a friend’s abandoned house.  Ok, I don’t want to sound nit-picky, but squatting brings to mind an idea of transience.  It’s not like the guy was a hobo…but it’s just not something that sounds awesome when you’re meeting a potential mate. 

He also disclosed that he liked to smoke weed.  I don’t have a problem with that.  I have many good friends who smoke and hold down impressive jobs and lead successful lives in every sense of the word.  But he mentioned it kind of a lot.  Having been in a marriage that was destroyed by drugs (among other things), I am a little guy-shy about that stuff.  I’m not going to criticize anyone for smoking a little weed now and then, but I didn’t want to get into a relationship with someone who is all about it either.

We made plans to go get a drink the next night (a Wednesday).  He was going to pick me up at my house at 8.  That night, he was 45 minutes late (stoner time?).  I am not always the most prompt person so I will not fault someone for being a little late…but come on, 45 minutes?  He had brought over a couple of Miller tall boys in a plastic bag, which was really thoughtful, but funny—like a pre-party for a first date.  The funny thing is, that is not the only time a bag of beers has made an appearance in my dating history.  There was one guy who I had been hanging out with for a little while and I was thinking of breaking things off with him because I was starting to see that he was sort of selfish and cheap.  There were many examples of that, but one thing that bugged me was how he would always come over and have beers from my fridge, but never brought any over. So I finally asked him if he’d bring some beer over.  And he did.  He brought over a plastic bag that had about 5 Milwaukee’s Bests in it that he had grabbed from his parents’ fridge.  Needless to say, he got dumped that night.  But I digress.  Back to the pre-party for our date.  It was about 9pm and I had to go to work the next day so I told him I didn’t want to stay out too late.  And I didn’t want to chug down a whole 16 oz. beer in ten minutes so we split it.  And he guzzled down the other one too.  And I think we only hung out at my house for maybe 20 minutes tops. As we were leaving he muttered something about having cut down drinking lately so that he had a buzz.  So I got drunk-driven to a bar on a first date. Luckily, it was only a few miles away. 

We went to a club that had some old Motown-era musicians playing.  It was a cool time—we talked a ton about music and politics and all kinds of stuff.  As he was leaving, he gave me a bag of cherry tomatoes he’d had in his car—just picked from his garden.  Looking back, I think, aw, the tomatoes were really sweet—especially since I am a bit of a gardener too. But I think neither of us called the other after that night.  Maybe he was nervous.  Maybe I was too judgmental.  Anyway, it doesn’t matter because eventually, I got back together with my old boyfriend.  But if you ever find yourself single and disenchanted with the standard means of connecting with people, be creative.  Have your pals pimp you out.  If nothing else, maybe you’ll come away with a story or two.  

mel unemployed, no more

I'm a little slow in posting this so a little behind...but I am so happy to report that my unemployment saga has concluded in the best possible way.  We were purchased by the sons and daughter of the couple that founded our company 51 years ago.  They sold us back in the early ‘90s, a couple years before I came on board.  It’s only been a few weeks, but already, we are seeing that they seem to be wonderful people full of commitment, passion and integrity.  And the great thing is they seem to be just as thrilled to discover the same in us.  No one is promising that this will be an easy road before us, but for the first time in years, the effort seems worth it.  I am trying to remain cautiously optimistic…but really, I find myself becoming more and more, just full-blown optimistic.  I am looking forward to better times ahead for us all. 

I hope the local papers eventually tell the whole story as it deserves to be told because it is a pretty unusual tale in this time of big corporations--where small companies get tossed around by large conglomerates and greed and ego dictate many corporate decisions.  This is one of the rare situations where a story like ours has a happy ending. 

We knew that Entertainment was facing financial difficulties--but not chapter 7 difficulties.  Options were out there, but as I’ve already written, it was due to a fight between John Menard and Steven Hilbert of MH Equity, our parent company.  Offers had been made by the Potikers (our new owners and founders) prior to the bankruptcy to purchase us from MH.  But those offers were turned down.  The Potikers came back with further offers.  Hilbert was interested in working with them, but then the MH people got tied up in a law suit and nothing was able to go through in time.  So several hundred people came to work on March 11^th to learn that they no longer had jobs.

It was decided that an auction would be held for our assets. And as I’ve written, we were called back into work by the trustee overseeing the bankruptcy to keep things moving. We are told that this is highly unusual—like maybe once in twenty years unusual.  Things were in limbo for a few weeks prior to the sale.  We heard rumors about how many parties might be preparing to bid on us, and who they might be.  The only two we (at my level) knew about were the Potikers and another family who have a competing product on the east coast.  Both parties came in and met with the upper management to learn about the company.  We heard that both entities seemed great and wished to maintain operations and our jobs would be safe either way. 

The day of the auction, Friday, 4/19, we got an email at the end of the day stating that the trustee was going to recommend that the assets should go to the Potikers and we should continue to come in to work.  On the following Monday, we expected to hear some confirmation of the sale, but nothing came through.  The next morning, we heard that the Potikers did win the auction.  I think we all breathed a sigh of relief. 

Little by little, we heard stories about how that auction had gone.  We heard that the competitors had come to the auction Friday with a letter from a bank instead of cash so they were deemed unqualified bidders and the recommendation was made that the assets should go to the Potikers.  But on Monday, the competitors came back with a pile of money.  The judge made the unheard of decision to re-open the bidding, against the recommendation of the trustee and start the auction all over again. 

I’ve learned a lot about corporate bankruptcy in the past few weeks.  One thing I learned is that a group from MH Equity, including Steven Hilbert, deemed secured investors, were entitled to receive the full amount of the money that they were owed.  Isn’t that messed up?  Out of all the employees and vendors and everyone who is owed money, these jerks get to be fully paid out while everyone else gets pennies on the dollar.  Apparently, the competitors offered them the full amount—cash money (eleven million, I believe).  The Potikers offered a couple million, plus 5% equity in the new company.  Amazingly, the MH entity chose the Potikers’ offer because they felt they’d have a better chance of making more money that way.  So that made me feel pretty good to hear that someone would take that gamble on us.  I guess ol’ Hilbert also stated that he wanted to do right by the employees.  So we’ll give him a little credit for at least saying that, whether it really had anything to do with that or not.  I hear that they told the competitors that they didn’t like their plans and felt that they were better off going with the Potikers so the competitor stormed out.  And that is how we ended up where we are now. 

It seems like fortune was smiling on us to get this company into the hands of the Potikers because we surely would have been dismantled by the other company and most of us would have lost our jobs again, no doubt. There is another entity that kicked in to sweeten the pot that enabled the Potikers to win. We’re not allowed to talk about that yet, but it is really interesting and should help us out immensely. 

I've had several opportunities to hear and speak with Lowell Potiker, our new CEO and his sister Jori.  I've also had a few meetings with the new CFO. I'm happy to report they all seem like intelligent, earnest, hard-working people with passion and heart and the best interests of the company at heart. Lowell already owns 2 or 3 other companies, one of which is a restaurant finance company that I hear is very successful (interesting partnership possibilities for our company--synergy!!!  Ok, I just took a break to wash my mouth out....I promise to never use that word again).  It's silly, but what impresses me more are the small things...like they smile a lot...they've trekked down to our side of the building more than any other execs did the whole time we've been in that building...they threw a Cinco de Mayo party Friday and socialized and celebrated with everyone...the CFO talked about maybe bringing his dog into work (he said it's a toy poodle named Alan--are you kidding me?  That dog name alone made me like him a ton!) and there was an in-office dog sighting this morning...Lowell's son's dog, we heard. 

I'm sure you business-y types are reading this (actually, any business-y types are probably busy with The Economist and such things and not reading silly blogs at all) thinking how dumb it is to base the abilities of our new owners on the fact that they smile and like dogs.  Well, it's not just the smiles....it's that they have actually cared to see what all of us are thinking.  The few ideas or suggestions we've thrown out have been not just heard, but questioned further and really examined.  I think they actually care.  A breath of fresh air after the string of duds who have owned our company in the past—CUC, a corporation whose executives were indicted for financial fraud; Barry Dillar, owner of IAC, who has won the title of “highest paid CEO” on several occasions. And then MH Equity, owner of Menard’s hardware stores—owned by a man who forces his managers to sign agreements that they will not build a house, an addition, even a deck while employed there because he’s so afraid of losing a dime to employee theft; a man who sued a couple for building a house to accommodate their special-needs child; a man who docks his employees pay if there are too many carts in the parking lot. What a guy.  So it’s great to be owned by people who seem like real, approachable humans who seem to want us for all the right reasons.

We’ve all been kicked around for a while—even long before the bankruptcy—so it feels good to peek out from under the bed and find that maybe we’re safe and can allow our bruises to heal so we can go on to lead a happy work life.  I feel like that sounds so victim-y.  Of course, we were free to leave and find other jobs at any time, but that place has a way of holding onto you.  It’s hard to leave a place with such wonderful people. Even with all its faults in recent years, I still generally enjoyed coming into work. Sure, the work sucked sometimes, but it’s nice to have people who will make you laugh and have fun, even in the worst of times.  To say that my co-workers are like family sounds cliche, but it's really true.  And now it's nice to have that family thread to all the way up to the top--instead of feeling like there are robots lurking in the marble hallways.  Feels like "it's a great day at Entertainment!" again. 

i'm back

I'm back.  Back at my old job.  And apparently, back to being lazy about creative endeavors.  I keep thinking that at least on the weekend, I will get back to this blog, but then the weekend comes, friends come over, you go out, you spend a day cleaning the bathroom, doing laundry, paying bills.  And then you're back on the couch.  Back to watching movies or reruns of Monk. 

I have always had a tendency toward sloth.  Don't get me wrong--my house is generally pretty clean.  I enjoy going out and having fun.  But if my boyfriend suggests we sit down and watch 6 episodes of Arrested Development at one time, I am all over that couch like white on rice. You don't have to twist this girl's arm to laze about on a chilly Sunday afternoon...even when she had plans to spend some time writing her sadly neglected blog.  Somehow, I was not like this when I was unemployed.  That girl had things to do--and she did them!  She only sat on the couch when she was folding laundry.  But this girl who has a job....she likes tv. 

So here is a brief update on what's been up in the past couple weeks:  We were invited back to our jobs to keep things going while the sale of our assets goes through--that will happen this Friday.  It's weird to be back, but honestly, I've been pretty happy--it's been a lovely, manageable amount of work.  We've all been getting out of here at 5:30 every day--and this is NOT how it normally is.  I have been happily ignoring the fact that there is basically a giant dump truck loaded up with poo that is poised over our heads and will unload in about a week or two--if we still have jobs.  The back gate of that truck will open and we will likely have to slog through a big crapload of work with too few resources.  Unless something miraculous happens...like I get another job....or it turns out that the new owners understand that we are humans and not robots...or the earth opens up and swallows us.

It's been interesting to see this whole process up close.  I've been tasked with contacting our vendors to see if they want to continue to work with us.  It's kind of an odd position to be in because we can't pay them for anything that we owed them for prior to the bankruptcy.  So it's a little like, "Hi, it's Mel!  Would you like to continue to do business with us even though we owed you thousands of dollars that you will probably never see?"  The surprising thing is, almost all of them are not only willing to still deal with us, they were actually very cool and understanding.  Many of them are people we've been working with for years.  It's encouraging to hear them tell us we're partners that they want to continue to do business with and they're rooting for us.  Just as it was amazing to have all the support from friends and acquaintances when I lost my job, now it is surprising and wonderful to hear that we have the support of these vendors. I feel fortunate to be able to receive all of these comments first-hand.  It reminds me that there might be hope and I might not be insane for considering staying here.

I am still looking for a new job, but that search has lost some of its urgency since coming back here.  I had an interview someplace and a phone screen someplace else.  I did not get offered the jobs, but it felt good to have someone be interested in me.  The interviews went really well so I was thrilled to at least get that experience under my belt since it had been quite a while.  And with my anxiety, I was pretty certain that I might puke or pass out or run away or just generally embarrass myself to the point of mortification. But I smiled across the table at the 3-person panel (and 3 on the phone!) and answered the questions they fired at me for a solid hour with some sense of confidence that I'd dredged up from someplace I had forgotten existed. So at least there's that. 

And now here I sit, on my lunch hour, trying to grab back onto some of that creative momentum that I was cultivating when I was unemployed.  We'll see what happens in the next few days.  Come Tuesday, I might have a job.  I might not.  I'm not too worried about it either way.  Spring and summer unemployment would have its advantages.  I wouldn't mind getting to know that girl who doesn't watch tv a little better.

week 3, thursday: heavy drugs and slippery nipples

It's been a pretty wild roller coaster of a ride...but less in a fun/laughy way and more in a freaky/barfing way.  I am going back to my old job on Monday.  It's a temporary gig--just till the sale of our assets goes through.  They didn't want everything to sit and be a "melting ice-cube", meaning our value ebbs away, the longer everything sits stagnating.  Once the sale goes through, it's very possible that most of us could get offers to go back to our old jobs.  To someone who is as uncomfortable with change as I am, the idea of going back to my nice comfy cubicle and picking up where I left off seems like a lovely warm blanket beckoning me in this storm of change.  But I know the reality of the situation might not be so comfy.  There might be snakes in that bed.  

So I've trudged on with the job search.  I had a phone screen today (my 2nd with this company) and was promptly invited to come in for a face to face interview next week. Yay, right? But I'm not being over-dramatic when I say that this interview is a little terrifying to me--like, truth be told, I'm positively dreading it.  And the interview is just the cage-rattling leading up to the total planet-shift of a new job, should that come to be.  All my big talk in a previous post about shunning heavy drugs...that notion has been cast aside as I contemplate the idea of a total change and thoughts leap to the sample packet of some crazy drug in my linen closet that I got during my last time of great stress and possible upheaval.  I had set them aside, deciding to stay the course with therapy and chamomile tea (among other things).  But now, the side-effects of some dreaded pill seem a small price to pay to just stay steady, get through everything, not pass out in an interview (so if you see me in a few months and I'm 60 pounds heavier, you will know why).  

I really don't want this blog to turn into a place where I go to whine about being anxious and unemployed.  I mean, that's pretty much where my head's at these days, but it's also not what I want my life to be all about.  So please let me take this opportunity to switch gears completely and tell a story.  I had originally promised I'd also use this blog to tell some old stories from my dating days...so let me begin that by telling you about Aaron (and quite honestly, my memory fails me, but I swear, I think it was spelled Erin...like a girl...I seem to recall that being a 'thing' my friends pointed out right off the bat).  And so yeah, in this case, names have not been changed to protect anyone's identity.  

My pal Lisa has been one of my closest friends since we met in college.  She was always the wild and crazy one, dating some hot guy or another, while I always had long-term boyfriends.  But then she married a great guy, had a couple beautiful little girls and settled down.  Several years ago, Dave and I were broken up and I went over to Lisa's brother's house for dinner when she was in town for a visit.  After dinner, she insisted that I "just look" at what matches I'd get on eharmony.  Next thing you know, she's signing me up, "happy early birthday!", she said.  But really, it was also a little bit like a present for her and her husband Nick too. I gave them my password so they could see my matches and pick guys for me.  They spent several weeks doing this as their weekend fun.  

One of the guys seemed really promising.  He was my 'good on paper' guy.  He had a good sense of humor, an interesting job, loved travel, ran marathons, coached a cross country team, was on a school board....the list went on.  Plus, he was nice looking.  We met for our first date and I was happy to see that he was as handsome as his photos that he'd posted.  However, he was dressed a little 90s-ish...mock turtleneck, hiked up jeans, dorky shoes...I let that go though.  You can always fix superficial stuff like that down the road, I reasoned. 

Over dinner, we had plenty to talk about. But he talked about his Jeep Wrangler quite a bit.  It would have been fine, but he said "it's a jeep thing" more than once.  The red flag began to peek up a bit, but I ignored it.  You can't criticize someone for being enthusiastic about their interests, can you?  

Then in the course of conversation, he mentioned that he had only started drinking a couple years before (and we were both in our mid-30s).  I was surprised by that bit of information so I asked him some questions about it. "What do you like to drink?" I asked, just keeping the conversation going.  

"Oh," he said without pause, "I like Slippery Nipples and Red-headed Sluts".  

As I write this, it just now occurs to me that maybe that could have been some sort of hint, like he was being pervy or something...I might have even had my hair dyed red at the time, now that I think about it.  But honestly, my reaction at the time, and really until I just wrote this was, hmm...that's kind of weird to have just started drinking in your 30s and to disclose that you prefer to drink something a 19-year-old girl would order in Windsor.  I found it to be amusing and let it pass, reasoning that I should not criticize someone for not drinking...after all, I'd dealt with enough drinking issues with my ex-husband to last me a lifetime (but that's a whole other story).  So I actually thought, well, maybe that's kind of refreshingly naive.  

The next week, he invited me to join him on a bike ride in Hines Park.  I am not a big cyclist.  I like putzing around town on my old clunky Schwinn and that's about it.  I told him I loved that idea, but warned him that my bike was old and heavy and had no gears so I was good for about 5 miles--maybe 8, tops.  We got to the park and had a lovely ride.  We got about 8 miles out and I realized it wasn't a loop....nope, we had to turn around and do 8 miles back.  And there were hills.  Big ones.  I held my own though, I'm proud to say.  

Afterward, we went to a pizza place to grab a bite to eat.  It was a beautiful October day, but as the sun went down, it got chilly and a cold rain began to fall.  But there we were in the Jeep Wrangler, with the top down..."it's a Jeep thing," he reminded me.  

At the restaurant, we talked about music at one point and I asked him what kind of music he liked.  "Oh, I like all kinds of music.  I like dance music a lot."  

I like a lot of music too, but I'm not so into current poppy stuff so I said, "oh, like what?"  

"Oh, like Haddaway," he said.  "You know that song, "What is love"?"  

"Ooooh....yeah." And then we went home.  With the top up.  And we never contacted each other again.  

Now, I don't want to sound conceited, but it's amusing to me that he didn't call me either.  It makes me curious to think of what he thought as I disclosed the weird little details of my life to him.  I'm sure he probably ended up with some girl who is excited for spring so they can put the top down on the Wrangler and jam out to 'What is love"--and that's great. I suppose that's a good reminder right now with all of these interviews going on...it's a little like dating.  You might not like the Wrangler guy, but he might not be into you either and that's just fine.  Everyone's just looking for a match that makes them comfortable.  Everyone just wants their Jeep thing.  

days 13 & 14: red thongs and bald spots

There was a crazy email in my inbox today from our CEO.  It was about my undies.  

No lie, I checked my work email for the first time in several days today and there was a message from Melissa, our CEO.  Perhaps you might recall from a couple entries ago (the things we left behind) that I had been waiting for a personal package (yes, containing undies) from JC Penney when we got shut down. I figured certainly, some guy in Shore Mortgage had them in a desk drawer somewhere.  But no.  The package ended up in the hands of our CEO.  She emailed me to let me know that she hadn't realized it was a personal package and so she opened it. I emailed back that she could probably imagine that I was a little red-faced and giggling.  And then coincidentally, I received the re-ordered ones from UPS at home today.  They were a little racier than I thought they'd be so I was even more embarrassed thinking of Melissa sitting there in the office, up to her eyeballs in bankruptcy matters opening a package for me and pulling out some saucy knickers....I hope she got a good laugh out of it...I sure did.  And God knows we can all use some laughter these days.  

So there was also another crazy email from our CEO today about us getting our jobs back.  We need to email them to let them know if we would be interested in being invited back. Sounds like things are taking longer than they expected--though I don't think anyone was surprised by that--but we could get back to work by mid-April.  

I did send an email to let them know I'd like to be invited back.  I don't know where things will be with potential jobs, so for right now, I'm looking at this as a paycheck--perhaps a temporary situation, depending on whether anything promising comes my way.  But...let me just open up and be real with you...there is a part of me that really, really hopes somehow the sky will open up and angels will fly down and cast their wands at our little company and everything will clear up and money will flow into our coffers once again, as it did in the old Potiker and CUC ownership days.  I know there are a million things to prevent anything of the kind from happening...and I'm being supremely naive...but just let me be that for a minute.  We've all been through so much crap...even before the bankruptcy...we deserve something good to come from all of our hard work for the past several years.  I guess I'm just waiting to hear what kind of grand plan they have and hopefully that will make things clear pretty early on whether we should dip our foot in the pool.  And if we do, if it might get chomped off by a crocodile.  

All of this crazy drama is finally starting to hit me.  I'd been feeling so oddly relaxed about everything and now finally, with this new turn of events, plus some phone screens, which could lead to interviews, it's all going up a notch and my anxiety is creeping back in.  Friday night at the Detroit Film Theatre, with the live choir and orchestra, I got a heaping dose of a reminder that it's still there.  Theaters and places like that where you can't easily leave if you need to sometimes make me nuts.  Sometimes it's ok, but Friday--as much as I enjoyed the whole thing--I also sat there just about crawling out of my skin wanting to walk out so badly.  It feels like something bad will happen--like maybe you'll throw up and breathing starts to feel weird--and mainly, you just want to escape as if your life depended on it. 

Other signs of anxiety have been popping up too.  I had my first bout of nighttime anxiety last night since this whole thing started.  I finally took a pill around 3.  Fell asleep around 4 and had to get up around 7 to go to the unemployment office.  Then the past couple days, I've noticed a little sore spot on the crown of my head--not like hit-your-head sore--it's weird-sore.  Several years ago, when going through a stressful time, I noticed a tiny bald spot about the size of a dime in the same spot that hurts right now. It had that same weird-sore feeling then.  I am hoping I don't lose hair.  

I know I shouldn't let this stuff get to me--but it's just my nature.  Dave suggested that we should just take this opportunity to join the Peace Corps (because you know, they're always looking for people approaching middle age who can barely assemble furniture from IKEA.) or move to Montana (hey Jill! ;).  I pretty much rolled my eyes at that.  But who knows...maybe that's what I need is just to totally uproot it all and try something completely new.  Yeah, a fresh start and some hair plugs and I'll be all set! 

day 12: candy that makes your pee turn colors and other amazing ideas

This weekend, I just let all my worries go. After learning of the news that I could get invited back to my old job (see details in my last post), I think I just mentally let go of thinking about all of it.  I've been running on all cylinders with every synapse in my brain firing toward finding a job.  And then to learn of perhaps getting my old job back...which was quickly followed by doubts about whether that would be a good scenario...well, I think my brain was like, girl, that's enough!  And it shut itself down.  So this weekend, I let all that go.  I watched some tv...I took a couple naps...I ate some foods that I regretted...we had a friend over Saturday night and we played some cards...which turned into silly drinking games and loud trash-talking and the singing of Johnny Cash songs (my June Carter Cash was spot on, y'all...well, in my head it was). I knowingly killed off some brain cells and I didn't mind one bit.  It was pure bliss to let it all go for a couple of days.  

And now, here it is, Sunday night and I have to get my head back to reality again.  Must get back into a mindset of making big decisions and fixing myself up to be ready to put myself out in front of potential employers in case I go that route. It's not even been two weeks yet and already, I'm just sort of over it and feeling petulant and pushed around.

I must admit, while I've been in a mad rush to get my resume out there as much as I can, the idea of maybe being unemployed when the weather warmed up wasn't horrible.  The possibility of maybe having some time to work on some artistic endeavors or do a little more writing held some appeal. Even though the idea of not having a job is scary, after 19 years of work, a little downtime to consider my options seemed like a nice little perk to come of something so horrible. 

I've had a handful of people talk to me about the notion that I could use this as a window of opportunity to explore some of the things I've dreamed of trying for years now.  A small number  of people know that I've always enjoyed coming up with business ideas.  I am great at coming up with crazy ideas (you know...those crazy ideas that 'just might work!').  I am not great at knowing how to implement them or any of the financial/business end of these ideas.  My dream would be having someone with big bags of money with dollar signs on them come to me and say they love my ideas and want to make them happen--they want to take over all the hard parts that I don't know about or don't want to do and they just want to give me the money for my ideas and then hire me as a consultant.  I would go from team to team, instilling them with my vision and they would take it and run.  And I would be there to participate and guide them along as we all build it out together.  I mean, isn't the world ready for candy that makes your pee turn colors?  And that's one of the bad ideas!  

But then I also have this burning desire to do something creative.  I don't know how to do much. I never studied art and that is one of the great regrets of my life, but I do enjoy doing little projects here and there.  There are a handful of things I would like to try.  I could start working on dying and painting silk scarves tomorrow to help my mom with her business.  But there's nothing I see myself doing that I could support myself with.  I have a friend who is an artist--a legitimate artist. She was encouraging me to try to do an idea that we and a couple of our friends were talking about a few years ago, sitting in some one's back yard on a gorgeous summer night, fueled by wine.  If only I were brave and resourceful and not instilled with the fear of not having a good-paying job with benefits from a young age--maybe I'd be more daring and willing to take a  crazy risk.  It stinks.  I feel like these ideas, my creativity--it's like a small child who tugs at my shirt from time to time for attention.  And 90% of the time, I pat its head and say "not now, dear--maybe later".  And later rarely comes.  And I think that's just the way the world works for a lot of people.  Well, I guess we'll see what happens in the coming days.  Maybe I can push to at least make some time for those things while I'm unemployed.  

days 10 & 11: hollywood drama

I missed posting anything for yesterday.  My friend got tickets to see the 1928 silent film The Passion of Joan of Arc at the Detroit Film Theatre and she invited me to go.  The film was accompanied by the Rackham Symphony Choir, performing composer Richard Einhorn's Voices of Light, a dramatic sort of medieval chanting in Latin and French written to accompany the film.  It was all just breathtakingly beautiful...the film and the music. The movie consists almost entirely of close-up shots of people's faces throughout the trial of Joan of Arc.  It is said that the actress who played Joan, Renee Jeanne Falconetti, gave the best performance in any film, ever.  She stands steadfast in her convictions and though she's scared and crying and fearing her fate, she stands her ground.  The emotion she expresses with just the tiniest nostril twitch was really amazing--let alone the tears pooling over and glistening on her eyelashes. Just gut-wrenchingly beautiful.  And painfully sad. 

After all the emotions of the last week and a half, you'd think such a movie would be hard to digest--and it was--I found myself still on the verge of tears even as we got to round 2 of the standing ovation for the musicians and choir.  But it was good to see it.  It was a good reminder that there is beauty in the world...and brutality...far, far greater than we can possibly imagine.  My employment problems are trivial.  And fleeting.  And the wine that followed after the movie softened the blow.  It was good to have a blurry wine-infused night of girl talk.  

This week brought another twist to our own ongoing drama.  We got word that a bid for our assets has been made by Lowell Potiker, son of the founders of our company.  Things are quickly under way to get things up and running again.  It sounds like most of us will get invited back to our jobs in a very short time (end of the month was mentioned...and that's next week!)

I know I'm not alone in feeling a lot of uncertainty.  On the one hand, this seems like a miraculous turn of events--worthy of a Hollywood script--the son of the founders swoops in and rescues us from the evil holding company, gives most of us our jobs back, puts the company back on track and viola! Happy ending.  

But the reality is quite different.  Many people have already found jobs or are on the way to other jobs (maybe me too).  Or even if they don't have anything, would they want to go back? And then there's the business--many people who held key positions on hot projects might be gone.  Many vendors, merchants and clients would be reluctant to do business with us again.  Plus, now they've seen us with our pants down.  They know about our financial situation.  Would people still want to do business with our company knowing what they now know?  And what of all those debts? The bankruptcy absolves them, I think, but why would any of those companies we owed money to ever want to work with us again?  And everything we dropped last week when this happened will be very behind.  It sounds like a mountain of headaches.  Something a sane person would run away from.  

But a little part of me is intrigued by the idea of being back with my old Entertainment family in a "new" company that holds dear a spirit that was lost over the years as we got bought and sold several times over.  That spirit has been kicked around by wicked corporate overlords--notables like John Menard and Barry Diller (who visited us once for a lunch meeting after he bought us and someone had to rush out and buy china plates because Mr. Diller would not use paper plates).  That spirit was muddied and bruised, but a little glimmer of it was always still there.  What if we could get it back and we could get the "old Entertainment" back?  Could we rise from the ashes??  

Ugh...the drama...it's been a lot to take.  I'm still going to follow through on my current path...I'm still attending the 2-day job seeker's seminar next week.  I'm still going to do my 2nd phone screen interview with Quicken next week.  I'll just take it a day at a time and see how this story unfolds.